PinnedMember-onlyHello, hi, hi!Thanks for visiting. Here’s a fun, sexy podcast I did with one of my feminist heroes, Tristan Taormino, about my novel The Not Wives, poly…Hello1 min readHello1 min read
Sep 5, 2022Member-onlyGood-Bye Medium, Hello SubstackHi Dear Readers,Goodbye1 min readGoodbye1 min read
May 20, 2022Member-onlyI Wrote a Novel During One of the Worst Moments in Global History, and We’re Still In ItWhen I began writing the first pages of my novel Panpocalypse, (OUT NOW IN PRINT AND AUDIO! ANYWHERE THAT BOOKS CAN BE SOLD AND/OR BOUGHT!) it was April of 2020 in lower Manhattan, during the first COVID lockdown. I was living in a faculty apartment in an NYU dorm with…Novel7 min readNovel7 min read
Mar 29, 2022Member-onlyThings To Remember When You’re Publishing a Book (or Maybe Anything)My second novel, Panpocalypse, comes out April 5th, and I wrote some reminders for myself and anyone else who needs them. Don’t look at Goodreads. I mean it. There’s nothing for you there. Even if there are many wonderful, kind, glowing reviews, you will somehow find something bad, and eventually…Books5 min readBooks5 min read
Jan 6, 2022Member-onlyI Loved The Lost Daughter(Spoilers) The Lost Daughter is a horror film about motherhood. Maggie Gyllenhaal’s feature directorial debut asks us to resist the ideology around motherhood — that it’s natural because it’s sometimes biological and that we must love it because women are innately caring. What happens when we examine our ideologies and…The Lost Daughter7 min readThe Lost Daughter7 min read
Published inHuman Parts·Dec 3, 2021Member-onlyWhat You Don’t Know About TeachersReflections on 21 months of pandemic teaching — Dear Students, Today, I did some math, and I realized that since I started teaching when I was 21, I have taught about 3,580 of you — mostly undergraduates, some adult teachers, and some high school students. …Teaching And Learning7 min readTeaching And Learning7 min read
Dec 3, 2021Member-onlyThe Alcoholic in Your FamilyCW: alcoholism and addiction, mention of sibling and child abuse My sister is alcoholic. Or maybe it’s my brother or mother or father or uncle. Maybe it’s my cousin or grandfather or aunt or nephew or student or kid. Maybe it’s your kid. How do you know? When your brother…Addiction8 min readAddiction8 min read
Dec 3, 2021Member-onlyThe DiggerCW: sexual assault, childhood abuse Some data: From a 2019 Teen Vogue article about rates of sexual violence among bisexual women: According to the CDC’s 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (the most recent copy of this survey), 61% of us will be raped, stalked, or abused; one…Middle Age8 min readMiddle Age8 min read
Dec 3, 2021Member-onlyThings No One Will Tell You About BleedingI finally saw an gynecologist who had some ideas about how to help me. Thanks to the rest of you gynos who have offered me nothing, but sad looks and soft murmurs. My new gyno Betsy told me I was too young and having too many periods to actually be…Periods Problem3 min readPeriods Problem3 min read
Nov 29, 2021Member-onlyPassing is a Perfect Film(Spoilers) That moment when Clare slips, jumps, or is pushed out of the window by her husband says more to me about bisexuality than most anything else I’ve read or watched. How close she is to Irene at that moment. How close she is to freedom. How close she is…Passing2 min readPassing2 min read
