I moved in the middle of the pandemic, last June. I hadn’t planned to move, but I was living in a faculty apartment in a dorm and that gig was ending in a year. The students were forced to move out, and increasingly, it was just my kid, my cat, and one other adult, in a building that usually housed almost 300 people…
It’s hard to pick just five but here goes!
1. The Neapolitan Novel Series by Elena Ferrante — These four novels (I guess I’m already cheating!) which include My Brilliant Friend, The Story of a New Name, Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay, and The Story of the Lost Child, changed the way I think about story both as a writer and a reader. Ferrante has written the best literary soap operas of our time, and built into it the story of two best friends, Lenu and Lila, who are torn apart by men, class, love, children, and their…
Because I like a fuck up.
Because I like aerial views of what appears to be a dick or dildo going into a pussy. Because I like dicks and dildos in pussies so much that about eight years ago I recorded a song with my dear friend, musician, Bearded Twin called “Put It In.” It’s finally ready. NSFW and def don’t accidentally play it front of your five-year-old kid like my boyfriend just did.
We’re releasing it today, in this essay. It’s a remix or a ten-inch or whatever DJs call music now.
Because I’m disabled and I like it…
After one year in lock down.
After one year of remote learning for your tween.
After one year of remote teaching for you.
After three consecutive years of online dating.
After coming out of the closet four years ago as a bi/pan person.
After deciding to date cis men again.
After meeting a cool, funny, smart, sexy cis man with a difficult baby mama, who hates you for existing.
After dating him for three months and deciding you really like him, but also that he comes with all of the same problems that the cis men you date tend to…
On Abandoning Novels I am Trying To Write
Oh hey, I made a Link Tree which feels nice.
Also, my friend Suzanne says Sara is the best Fleetwood Mac song and I tried to fight her on that and claim it is Gypsy, but I just listened to Sara five times and Suzanne is right. Go ahead, see what happens to your eyes when you listen to Sara.
All hail Stevie Nicks and her shawl work in each of these videos and in life. Stevie is the name of my protagonist in my novel, The Not Wives. …
Sometime during the 80th month of the pandemic, after the great blizzard of late January, I drove my used Kia Soul to a vegan bakery to meet a man I liked very much who had also lied to me. Because it was Brooklyn, some cars had dug themselves out of the snow and some had not, and since it was two days after the blizzard, the snow had hardened into planetary ice craters in some places and melty slush piles in others.
A couple of weeks earlier I’d abandoned my shovel on the street. It was taking up too much…